The Helper…the Hibernator and the Hater
The COVID19 crisis seems to have brought to the surface or emphasized qualities that many of us have.
Painting this in broad strokes; I’ll describe them as the Helper, the Hibernator and the Hater. In crisis situations we are all gripped by fear and uncertainty; but how we manifest this or deal with this in our lives and by our actions …that’s what’s important to our friends, family and community:
- The Helper is the person who reacts to crisis with a desire to help those less fortunate and looks for those opportunities. Helpers may donate time, money or food to shelters and spread positive messages through social channels and by texting and calling friends and family to check on them. Helpers channel their concern into philanthropic acts for friends, family and the community. Helpers are our Labrador retrievers steady and dependable.
2. The Hibernator is paralyzed by their concerns. They retreat into themselves or a small circle of friends or family. Like a roly poly or pill bug(actually a crustacean), they curl up into themselves for protection and to insulate. Hibernators may limit their outside contact, attempt to ignore the media and news, and though they may be sad or angry; this is seldom expressed.
3. The Hater is the person whose concern and fear is translated into negativity. Spreading conspiracy theory messages; haters may be feeling angry at being unemployed or underemployed or just uncomfortable that their routine has been disrupted and life is more uncertain. Their sense of helplessness, frustration or powerlessness may make them surly with friends and family in both their virtual and real-time community. Haters are like an angry cat, backed into a corner, hissing and spitting.
These are confusing and uncertain times. So much has changed for so many in a short period of time.
It may be overwhelming.
Recognize if you need help and reach out.
Have patience with your friends and family members or people in your community — whether they are a helper, hibernator or a hater — they may be doing the best they can in a difficult situation.